On Mansisting, Misogyny and Fat-Shaming

“Mansplaining” has entered the mainstream lexicon, filling a need to define the male habit of indulging in slow and patient explanations to women because of the extra effort required to help us overcome our intellectual challenges. If we protest that we already know...

Is It Love or Enmeshment?

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains I looked to the children, I drank from the fountain There’s more than one answer to these questions pointing me in a crooked line. As the Indigo Girls sing, there’s more than one answer to the question of enmeshment....

Magic Wand Syndrome and Other Phallic Fallacies

Spoiler Alert: Most of this website aims to be serious, soul-searching and sensitive. (Well, sort of.) This piece is an attempt at satire, and virtually nothing in it is true. My live-in romance with Significant Other was crumbling, and there was little I still liked...

What about substance abuse?

What if you discover that the man you love is an alcoholic, a drug addict, or compulsively engaged in (self-) destructive behavior? Some women fall in love with addicts – alcohol is the traditional addiction, but nowadays opioids are an epidemic. Are these women...

People-pleasing, no self-care, and empty promises

A friend of mine was very interested in a slim, health-conscious yoga and Pilates instructor. This man was a couch potato himself, but he was attracted to her beauty. He took a few yoga lessons with her, but she did not appear romantically inclined. He dropped the...